There is something that all women have to deal with throughout their life and it seems to only get worse when we get married and have children. I’m talking about stress; and as a woman, you probably understand exactly what I’m discussing. The fact that women experience stress does not come as a surprise, and that stress is compounded when children arrive on the scene is not a surprise either.
Why do we experience so much stress when we have children? Because those little humans tend to throw us a curveball every once in a while and sometimes, they do it on a daily basis.
Although we love our children with all our hearts, it is difficult to rationalize in our minds why we decided to have children in the first place. We couldn’t imagine living without them but from time to time, we may have a meltdown in the middle of Target. I’m not talking about our children having a meltdown, I’m talking about a mother throwing a full-blown temper tantrum because of what their children are doing.
Why do we have such a hard time with parenting? This video may open your eyes to the answer:
Many mothers may find themselves sitting and pondering why they had children in the first place. There is no doubt that they can be stressful, but we love them with all our heart nonetheless.
It might surprise you to learn that a study was conducted at the University of Padova. It claims that there is something much more stressful than children, our husband.
According to that research, marriage may produce just as much stress as motherhood and sometimes, it may even cause much more.
In this study, three-quarters of the women claimed that they do the majority of the household duties and hold most of the parenting responsibilities. One out of every five even stated that a lack of help and support from their husbands was the cause of much of their stress.
This study also took a look at the men in their lives and found that many of them were relying heavily on their wives every day.
When the wife in the relationship dies, the health of the man typically deteriorates very rapidly. Women, however, tend to move on with their life, get healthier and learn how to cope.
Perhaps this is best illustrated by looking at the life of Jessie Gallan. She lived to be 109 years old!
She attributed her long life to staying single and never having a man around.
She said: “My secret to a long life has been staying away from men. They’re just more trouble than they’re worth.” She also said she lived a long life because she loved porridge.
When you look at the statistics, you see that women still outlive men, despite all of the stress in their lives. In the United States, women live an average of 81.6 years but men only live to be 76.
There has been some evening out in that gender gap but that is probably because women, in general, are more involved in the workplace, and men are more involved at home.
We will probably see this trend continue for quite a few more years. Eventually, that gender gap may disappear altogether.
What is not likely to disappear, however, is the fact that men can be a frustrating part of the marriage equation. Just keep that in mind when you feel your next meltdown coming on.